First Date Tips

Here’s the deal….
I’m not saying don’t be a good guy or a caring guy. I’m not saying be an ass all night and insult your date. I’m not saying you should be someone you’re not.
What I’m telling you is: Be yourself.
Look deep down into your soul, and ask yourself if you honestly believe that you’re being true to yourself by kissing the ass of your date just because she’s hot.
Or perhaps you believe you’re being yourself by letting her take the lead and doing whatever she wants.
Better yet, maybe you think you’re being yourself by agreeing with every statement she makes or every opinion she has…
Wrong.
In fact, you’re doing yourself a great disservice by acting like somebody you’re not just because you want to be “what she wants”.
Girls like a confident man. Not a “yes man”. Have an oppinion for crying out loud!!
If she says baseball is the best sport in the world…and you hate baseball….then don’t agree with her. Tell her that you aren’t a fan of baseball, but that you love football.
She’ll respect you for being your own man and having an opinion.
Don’t keep buying her gifts just to win her affection. I promise you, eventually she’ll begin to lose interest in you faster than you would believe.
The common misconception by guys is that if they perhaps buy a girl enough gifts, or enough flowers, or be as nice as possible….then they girl is sure to fall in love….right?
Wrong.
Don’t overdue it.
You’ll hate yourself when your bank account is empty and the girl you’ve been trying to win over is making out with someone else.
We’ll get more in depth on that later…but for now just trust me.
Be a man. Be yourself. Have an opinion.

Be too nice…be too sensitive…be too accommodating…be too unconfrontational…be too needy…
and say hello to the dreaded FRIEND ZONE!!!

Here is a pretty funny video I found while surfing the net….

There’s a reason why women love shopping so much. Most of them don’t do it simply because they’re bored…
They do it because they LOVE clothes. They love style. They love fashion.
Keeping that in mind…..It would be safe to assume that if you show up to a nice date dressed exactly like the hobo that asks for change on 3rd ave….she probably won’t be impressed. In fact, she will probably be slightly insulted that you couldn’t even take the time and effort to look nice for her.
Women take pride in their appearance. They spend a long time getting ready for dates, so the least you could do is throw on some decent clothes.
Quick Mini Tip: Buy nice shoes!
Shoes are more important than you think. If you show up in nice jeans and a cool shirt….but are wearing a beat up pair of sneakers that are stained green because you wear them to cut the grass….you’re going to look like a fool.
Invest in some nice shoes. You can find a decent pair that aren’t too expensive.
Ask a few of your girl friends to go shopping with you. Try on a few outfits and let her pick out the ones she likes best.
Trust me on this fellas…your fashion could make or break your first date…
Granted, there are some girls out there that genuinely don’t care about how you look or how you present yourself in public. But make no mistake about it, brother….these girls are a very rare breed.

Keep your clothes nice, but casual. If you’re taking her to a very nice dinner at a nice restaurant….don’t show up in your favorite hooters t-shirt and a pair of shorts. Put on some nice slacks and a nice shirt. Or better yet, get a cool graphic Tee and throw on a blazer on top. Dress appropriately.
If you’re going to a casual date to grab some coffee or something, then feel free to dress down a little (not too much, though).
I trust you’ll make the right judgment call…

Another “should be common sense” tip…
Do not talk all about yourself. First dates are about getting to know eachother and having some fun. The key word in that last sentence is EACHOTHER.
Trust me, brother, you’re not that interesting.
Don’t get me wrong here, I’m sure you’re a great guy with a lot to offer. But if you spend all day/night talking just about yourself, you’re going to turn off your date faster than you think.
Here’s something to remember: Girls love talking about themselves….so let them. Take the time to listen to what she has to say, engage in some good conversation, ask her questions…and i can bet you she’ll think you’re the best thing since sliced bread.
One of the top complaints women have on the first date is that all the guy did was talk about himself.
Don’t be that guy.
Tell her about yourself, but make sure you take the time to learn about her too.
If you see her eyes wandering, her yawning, her texting her friends while you talk, her mouthing “HELP ME” to random strangers….take that as a hint that you’re talking to much..presumably about yourself. Lock it up…

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This is the first set of Q&A’s. All of the email questions I receive that deal with legitimate first date or dating/relationship questions that I feel will help other people, I will publish in the Q&A section.
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Question:
Hello,
I had the worst date ever a couple of weeks ago lol. The girl was hot but really lame. wat should u do if u realize half way thru the date that she sucks. Do u bail out? lol.

Answer:
That’s actually a pretty funny predicament. I’ll tell you this much, even if the chick sucks….don’t bail out. I mean, unless she is causing a scene or doing something outrageous…you should try and stick it out. Remember, girls talk….a lot. If you start bailing on dates that you think aren’t good for you, you’re going to end up developing a bad reputation. One day you may want to take out a girl who ends up being friends with some chick you bailed on a while ago….and then you SOL, buddy. Don’t be lowclass, but at the same time…don’t waste your time if the girl is insulting you or is making a scene. Unfortunately, you didn’t include specific details…so I’m just talking in general here.
Hope this helps!

Misery may love company….but nobody loves a whiner. Don’t complain on a first date. Chicks like a guy who can show them a good time, not somebody who drags them down. Life is too short to waste complaining about everything and bringing down everybody’s mood.
All you have to do on a first date is be fun, be interesting, and be positive. You want your date to associate you with happiness. You won’t accomplish that if all you do is complain about the waiter being slow, the traffic pissing you off, or how much you hate your job. Quit being a baby. If you need to vent, call your mom or your therapist….
Don’t vent on a date.

Everything is linked through your wonderful sense of smell. When you think of your mothers homemade apple pie, what do you think of? I can bet that at some point during your craving/daydreaming, you begin to think about the scent of it as it comes out of the oven, right?
Studies have been done to prove that the sense of smell is profoundly linked to a person’s memories.
You don’t want your date associating you with anything negative…..
So, make sure you smell good!
Here are some pointers to smelling your best:
-Obviously, take a shower. Lather yourself in soap…rinse it off…and repeat it. Make sure that you use some sort of shampoo or conditioner for your hair, as well.
-Put on some lotion after your shower. It seeps into your pores, leaving you smelling good for a long while.
-USE DEODORANT. Look at you, Skippy….you’re shaking with fear as it is. You’re more nervous than a 10 year old at Michael Jackson’s slumber party…..The last thing you need is to profusely sweat and begin smelling bad in the middle of your date.
-Invest in some cologne. Be mindful that certain colognes will smell differently once it’s applied to your skin and mixes with your natural body scent. Pick a cologne that smells enticing on you. Ask one of your female friends to go to the mall with you, and try out a few different colognes and let her pick out her favorite. On date night, don’t go overboard when you apply the cologne. You don’t want your date clawing at the window with her eyes watering when she gets in the car. If your date steps in the car and has a reaction as if the riot control sprayed her in the face with Mase, you’ve applied too much.
My 6th grade art teacher would always tell us when using glue, “A little dab’ll do ya”…
Same principle applies here, fellas.
-Brush your teeth. Keep your breath fresh. Nothing is a bigger turn off than getting close to talk to your date and having your breath smell like hot garbage. Do Not walk out of the door without a pack of chewing gum in your pocket.

I can’t stress enough how important smelling good is. It seems so basic, and yet so many girls complain about how their date had horrid breath, or smelled like they just ran the NY marathon.

Smell good, guys.
Make her crave you the way you crave homemade apple pie….
She may love football players, but I doubt she loves the smell of the football lockeroom….
Feel me?

**This Tip Should Be Common Sense**
I firmly believe the guy needs to decide what and where the first date is going to be. That means, if you know the girl you are asking out attends choir practice every tuesday night, teaches Sunday School every Sunday morning, and volunteers her free time at the local children’s hospital….chances are she probably wouldn’t enjoy watching Ozzy Osbourne bite the head off a bat live in concert (Not that you should bring any girl to a concert on the first date…).
You know what I’m saying? Think about the kind of girl you’re taking out. Is she soft spoken? Is she into sports? Does she like art?
Pick something to do that will appeal to her.
Scoring a couple tickets to a UFC fight may be sweet for you and your buddies, but may not be too cool to the chick you’re trying to take out on a date.
If you just met the girl briefly at a bar, club, etc…Then you probably have no idea what kinda stuff she likes.
Therefore,
The best advice is:
Pick something general. Go grab some food or some coffee. It’ll give you guys an opportunity to get to know eachother, and you an opportunity to decide whether or not she’s a good match for you.
Good Luck…

To get through that crucial first date, you have to stay cool, calm, and collected. Nobody wants to be around a bumbling idiot…so get a grip!
The number one reason people get so nervous on dates:
Fear that the other person won’t like them.
Think about that for a minute….
Hopefully, you’ll be able to see how ridiculous that way of thinking is. Sure, rejection doesn’t feel like a Swedish massage….
But it’s not the end of the world. If a girl doesn’t like you, don’t take it personally. You guys just weren’t compatible. No need to beat yourself up over it.
For every 1 girl that doesn’t mesh with your personality, there are 50 others around the corner that will think you’re God’s gift to women.
Remember that. Memorize it. Say it to yourself. Rinse. Repeat.
Being nervous about a First Date is about as useful as worrying about who is going to be your roommate in the nursing home when you’re 95 years old. It’s pointless. You don’t know what’s going to happen. For all you know, you will decide after the date that she is no good for you.
Keep this in mind: First dates are a lot like Job interviews…..only in this case…always remember that you’re the employer…

So relax, calm down…and most importantly…Have fun out there, kids.