First Date Tips

This is a no-no.
Unless you met this girl on adultfriendfinder…or you are answering her craigslist ad for bondage sex…
Then you really shouldn’t talk about all the nasty things you would like to do to her…
It’s ok to flirt heavily and perhaps drop some funny sexual innuendo….but don’t overdo it.
She doesn’t want to hear about all the disgusting thoughts you’re having.
She wants to know you’re a cool guy…who is not too overeager to hop in bed…and who thinks she’s more than just a piece of meat.
Classic rule:
If she thinks you’re too eager to sleep with her….it’ll turn her off.
This happens for many reasons…
One of them being that if you seem too eager…she’s going to assume that you getting laid only happens once in a blue moon.
So if you can’t get chicks…..why should she settle for you?
Women want what other women have.
I don’t care if you haven’t gotten some in a year….
Act as if you can get it any time you want. Act as if it’s no big deal to you.
Be laid back.
Relax.
Stay cool….
Make her work for it….
Be unlike every other guy…
And I promise….she’ll never leave you alone…

You’re wrapping up the date…
You’re walking her to her doorstep because you’re a classy guy…
And you’re patting yourself on the back…
Not because you thought the date went well…..
But rather, because you managed to refrain from running out of the coffee shop and jumping in front of a bus to escape being around such an annoying person…

I know, I know…I’m being harsh here. But we’ve all been there before..
(And don’t kid yourself, fellas…not every girl you’ve been on a date with thought you were God’s gift to women..)
The point is, some dates end up being winners…some dates end up being duds..
One thing if for certain…not every girl you go out on a date with will mesh with your personality.

That being said….
If you have no intention of calling her….don’t say you will.
Be a stand up guy, kiss her on the cheek, tell her it was really nice to meet her, and then be on your way..
She should get the message.
There’s no reason to lead her on. You wouldn’t want a chick to do it to you…would ya?
Save both her and yourself a lot of time…and keep it real.

Girls love a guy with an edge. They don’t, however, love a guy who is ignorant.
It’s ok to drop the occasional swear word here and there while you’re out on a date…but for the most part, clean it up.
There’s a difference between having an edge and dropping F-bombs on your dinner date for the whole restaurant to hear…
Don’t let your date get the wrong idea of you. You only get one first date….
And unless she wants to date a sailor…she’s probably not going to be impressed by you if every other word coming out of your mouth would make a nun have a heart attack…
Believe me guys…this may sound a bit prudish…
But you just gotta control yourself a little.
Women love James Bond…
But do you ever hear James Bond raving about how “f*ckin great the motherf*ckin’ chicken is in this motherf*ckin’ restaurant!”
No…you don’t.
Be classy.
Save the Samuel L. Jackson talk for later on in the relationship..lol.

This is a good one. For all you guys out there who desperately seek the approval of women…please pay attention.
Faking common interests is no good for anybody. Believe it or not, there are a lot of pansies out there who say anything to please a woman they are on a date with. They think that faking common interests is going to make the woman suddenly fall in love because of how “alike” you two are..
Please think about the flaw in that logic…
Even if you get past the first date, what’s going to happen next?
God forbid you two actually do “hit it off” and get into a relationship…
What are you going to do? Spend your weekends going to the Ballet or the Opera? Or perhaps go shopping every night? Or even worse….watch the WNBA???
No, sir.
Faking common interests is going to bring you nothing but trouble. Be your own man. Have your own interests. Don’t just say you like doing whatever she likes doing. Women can smell an Approval Seeker a mile away…
Don’t be that guy.

Compliments are good. But be creative. If all you do is sit there and compliment a woman….well….then you’re basically wrapped around her finger. She’ll get bored quick with all your compliments. You know why? Because if she’s a beautiful girl….chances are she hears the same compliments every single day.
Don’t get me wrong. Women always love a good compliment…
The key word there, however, is “good”.
If you’re out on a valentine’s date tonight, don’t be lame and tell her she has pretty eyes…
If there is nothing else about her to compliment, then you got bigger problems than I can solve for ya, buddy.
Be creative. My suggestion is don’t compliment her beauty or appearance on the first date. If you feel the need to compliment her appearance…then say something to the effect of “You look nice tonight…i like what your wearing…i love a girl w/ style..”
Good Advice:
Compliment things other than her appearance.
For example, if she makes you laugh…tell her you love her humor.
If she’s into sports…tell her you really think it’s cool that she digs football…
You see where I’m heading with this?
Don’t be like every other schmuck….be different!
Happy Valentine’s Day, my brothers….

And Happy Self Loathing Day for all of you without a date or a girlfriend…
Do yourself a favor…clean yourself up…get off the couch…and go out tonight.
Why?
Because, just like you….you’re going to find that all the girls you find tonight at the bar, or martini lounge, or whereever you go…….ARE ALSO SINGLE!! Otherwise they would be with their boyfriends…right?
Today should NOT be spent self loathing…
Today is one of the best days to go out there and meet other nice, single, lonely girls that decided NOT to spend the day inside eating icecream and crying into a pillow…
Have fun, fellas.

Women love a bit of mystery.  If you tell her everything there is to know about you…what will leave her wanting a second date?
I really don’t care if you feel an instant connection to this girl. You don’t need to be telling her about all of your feelings and insecurities. This is a no-no.
Women are not interested in this. You need to give a woman some challenge…some mystery. If there is no challenge and if the woman knows everything there is to know about you on the first date….she will lose all interest. The prospect of dating you just won’t be fun for her anymore.
Keep your feelings in check. Leave her wondering a little about how exactly you feel.
Even if you think she’s the greatest thing since Aloe Enriched Toilet Paper….
Don’t say so. Women may not agree with me on this one…..but deep down they know it’s true.
If you fold like a deck of cards right away and become putty in her hands….she won’t be interested in you anymore.
What does she have to look forward to? She won’t be anticipating your next call anymore because…well….she knows you’ll call. She knows she has you wrapped around her finger…
Don’t do it, man. Stay strong.

As I touched upon last night, body language is critical.  Believe it or not, you communicate to women without even saying anything.  Body language is a form of communication that conveys value…and alpha male status.  The problem is, a lot of times..body language can’t be faked.  You need to stop being so shy in your own skin.  Believe in yourself, and believe that you’re an awesome guy.  Walk with pride, keep your head up…and hold eye contact.  Confidence is one of traits that women find most attractive.  Are you displaying confidence by walking around with your shoulders slumped, staring at the ground?  Body language is communication……….the question is…what is your body language saying about you??

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