First Date Tips

I understand. Really, I do. You want to impress your date. Sometimes you may even try and impress her by trying to seem as if you’re more important than you actually are…
We all like to think that we’re big deals. Maybe you are….maybe you aren’t.
Just make sure you don’t start lying about yourself.
Common sense should tell you to not to say you own a Maserati when you don’t. You can only lie about it being “in the shop” for so long before she calls you on your bullsh*t…

If she tells you she loves John Mayer, don’t tell her you know a guy that can get her backstage at his next show.

If she tells you she loves France, don’t tell her you own a summer house in St. Tropez…

If she loves going clubbing, don’t tell her you can skip the line at the most exclusive club in the city..

You see where I’m going with this??
While it may seem cool at the time…what are you gonna do if you two actually start dating seriously?
Are you going to continue to lie? Are you going to come clean and admit you were just being a D-bag?

Save yourself the trouble, man. Be yourself. Be comfortable in what you have to bring to the table. You don’t need to lie about yourself to impress anyone.
You are trying to find someone who will like you for who you are….not what she can get from you…

Many dating experts will give you a different opinion on this one.
If you ask a female expert, she’ll tell you to always pay.
If you ask some male experts…they’ll tell you not to be a wuss and split the bill 50/50.
There are a lot of different theories floating around on this one…

If you want my opinion…
I say, be classy. Pay for the first date.
I always suggest to have a creative first date that doesn’t even involve a bill…
But in the event that you go on a more traditional date…..then go ahead and pay.
I’ve always paid for my dates…..
And I’ll tell you why…
If you’ve done everything right on the date thus far….and you’ve been a funny, charismatic, confident guy throughout the date…
Then it really doesn’t matter if you pay for everything or you just pay your half.
BUT…in the event that you’re out on a date with an “old school” girl who likes a chivalrous man…then you footing the bill is just a cherry on top of a good date.
Even if you don’t see yourself going out on another date with this girl….still take the high road.
After all….you invited her right??
One of my favorite tests to see if this chick is worth my time…comes at the end of the night…
I automatically grab the bill….if she offers to pay her half…then she’s solid.
If she doesn’t…or worse yet…doesn’t even say thank you…
Then you run, pal…..and you run fast…

This is a no-no.
Unless you met this girl on adultfriendfinder…or you are answering her craigslist ad for bondage sex…
Then you really shouldn’t talk about all the nasty things you would like to do to her…
It’s ok to flirt heavily and perhaps drop some funny sexual innuendo….but don’t overdo it.
She doesn’t want to hear about all the disgusting thoughts you’re having.
She wants to know you’re a cool guy…who is not too overeager to hop in bed…and who thinks she’s more than just a piece of meat.
Classic rule:
If she thinks you’re too eager to sleep with her….it’ll turn her off.
This happens for many reasons…
One of them being that if you seem too eager…she’s going to assume that you getting laid only happens once in a blue moon.
So if you can’t get chicks…..why should she settle for you?
Women want what other women have.
I don’t care if you haven’t gotten some in a year….
Act as if you can get it any time you want. Act as if it’s no big deal to you.
Be laid back.
Relax.
Stay cool….
Make her work for it….
Be unlike every other guy…
And I promise….she’ll never leave you alone…

You’re wrapping up the date…
You’re walking her to her doorstep because you’re a classy guy…
And you’re patting yourself on the back…
Not because you thought the date went well…..
But rather, because you managed to refrain from running out of the coffee shop and jumping in front of a bus to escape being around such an annoying person…

I know, I know…I’m being harsh here. But we’ve all been there before..
(And don’t kid yourself, fellas…not every girl you’ve been on a date with thought you were God’s gift to women..)
The point is, some dates end up being winners…some dates end up being duds..
One thing if for certain…not every girl you go out on a date with will mesh with your personality.

That being said….
If you have no intention of calling her….don’t say you will.
Be a stand up guy, kiss her on the cheek, tell her it was really nice to meet her, and then be on your way..
She should get the message.
There’s no reason to lead her on. You wouldn’t want a chick to do it to you…would ya?
Save both her and yourself a lot of time…and keep it real.

Girls love a guy with an edge. They don’t, however, love a guy who is ignorant.
It’s ok to drop the occasional swear word here and there while you’re out on a date…but for the most part, clean it up.
There’s a difference between having an edge and dropping F-bombs on your dinner date for the whole restaurant to hear…
Don’t let your date get the wrong idea of you. You only get one first date….
And unless she wants to date a sailor…she’s probably not going to be impressed by you if every other word coming out of your mouth would make a nun have a heart attack…
Believe me guys…this may sound a bit prudish…
But you just gotta control yourself a little.
Women love James Bond…
But do you ever hear James Bond raving about how “f*ckin great the motherf*ckin’ chicken is in this motherf*ckin’ restaurant!”
No…you don’t.
Be classy.
Save the Samuel L. Jackson talk for later on in the relationship..lol.

This is a good one. For all you guys out there who desperately seek the approval of women…please pay attention.
Faking common interests is no good for anybody. Believe it or not, there are a lot of pansies out there who say anything to please a woman they are on a date with. They think that faking common interests is going to make the woman suddenly fall in love because of how “alike” you two are..
Please think about the flaw in that logic…
Even if you get past the first date, what’s going to happen next?
God forbid you two actually do “hit it off” and get into a relationship…
What are you going to do? Spend your weekends going to the Ballet or the Opera? Or perhaps go shopping every night? Or even worse….watch the WNBA???
No, sir.
Faking common interests is going to bring you nothing but trouble. Be your own man. Have your own interests. Don’t just say you like doing whatever she likes doing. Women can smell an Approval Seeker a mile away…
Don’t be that guy.

Compliments are good. But be creative. If all you do is sit there and compliment a woman….well….then you’re basically wrapped around her finger. She’ll get bored quick with all your compliments. You know why? Because if she’s a beautiful girl….chances are she hears the same compliments every single day.
Don’t get me wrong. Women always love a good compliment…
The key word there, however, is “good”.
If you’re out on a valentine’s date tonight, don’t be lame and tell her she has pretty eyes…
If there is nothing else about her to compliment, then you got bigger problems than I can solve for ya, buddy.
Be creative. My suggestion is don’t compliment her beauty or appearance on the first date. If you feel the need to compliment her appearance…then say something to the effect of “You look nice tonight…i like what your wearing…i love a girl w/ style..”
Good Advice:
Compliment things other than her appearance.
For example, if she makes you laugh…tell her you love her humor.
If she’s into sports…tell her you really think it’s cool that she digs football…
You see where I’m heading with this?
Don’t be like every other schmuck….be different!
Happy Valentine’s Day, my brothers….

Women love a bit of mystery.  If you tell her everything there is to know about you…what will leave her wanting a second date?
I really don’t care if you feel an instant connection to this girl. You don’t need to be telling her about all of your feelings and insecurities. This is a no-no.
Women are not interested in this. You need to give a woman some challenge…some mystery. If there is no challenge and if the woman knows everything there is to know about you on the first date….she will lose all interest. The prospect of dating you just won’t be fun for her anymore.
Keep your feelings in check. Leave her wondering a little about how exactly you feel.
Even if you think she’s the greatest thing since Aloe Enriched Toilet Paper….
Don’t say so. Women may not agree with me on this one…..but deep down they know it’s true.
If you fold like a deck of cards right away and become putty in her hands….she won’t be interested in you anymore.
What does she have to look forward to? She won’t be anticipating your next call anymore because…well….she knows you’ll call. She knows she has you wrapped around her finger…
Don’t do it, man. Stay strong.

A date idea that seems to be getting more and more popular amongst the younger crowd is meeting up at a bar or pub for a drink. I can’t say I recommend this date, however, I know that it’s common in college towns and other areas.
But, the point I am trying to make here is if you’re going to drink on a date….whether it be at a bar…or whether you decide to order a couple drinks during dinner…..you better make sure you control yourself.
If you start slurring, stumbling, talking about nonsense, or crying during your dinner/date….rest assured, you’ve had way too much and your date will be texting her friends asking them to come save her.
I know, I know….the booze loosens you up and makes you feel good. I get it. But you need to stay sharp tonight. Don’t drink more than two drinks (if two drinks gets you hammered…well…i think you need to visit a dating advice site for women, Nancy). You need to keep good judgement and stay on top of your game.
I hope this is a common sense tip….but I felt it necessary to discuss anyway. Believe it or not, these tips do get discussed with different women before getting posted on this site. All of whom agree that getting drunk on a first date is a huge turn off.
My advice: Stay away from alcohol entirely on the first date. But if you feel the need to drink, limit yourself….
You’re date may be hot….but you don’t want to be seeing double of her tonight…
Save it for the upcoming guys night out…

If a woman asks you about your ex and why you broke up, don’t run off at the mouth about how awful she was. Don’t start telling this girl, who you hardly know, how bad your ex sucked at cooking or that she looked like Sloth from “The Goonies” without her makeup on.
I don’t care if she is the spawn of Satan….
Now is not the time to bad mouth her. Don’t get me wrong….Women love gossip. But if you start lacing into your ex and calling her names, your date will begin to wonder what you would say about her if you guys happened to stop seeing eachother after a few dates…
Rest assured you probably won’t be getting more than the first date.
Especially if you guys have common friends.
Be truthful, but polite. Tell your new date that things just didn’t work out with your ex, but that you wish her well.

**If by chance, you don’t have an Ex girlfriend…
Just tell her that you’ve been really busy with other things (school, sports, work..etc.) and that you haven’t really found somebody that interests you enough. You don’t want your new date thinking that you can’t get a girlfriend…
Act as if you’re selective….and you just haven’t found the right one yet…but you’re open to a girlfriend if the right girl comes along.
She’ll respect that answer.

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