First Date Tips

This is a good one. For all you guys out there who desperately seek the approval of women…please pay attention.
Faking common interests is no good for anybody. Believe it or not, there are a lot of pansies out there who say anything to please a woman they are on a date with. They think that faking common interests is going to make the woman suddenly fall in love because of how “alike” you two are..
Please think about the flaw in that logic…
Even if you get past the first date, what’s going to happen next?
God forbid you two actually do “hit it off” and get into a relationship…
What are you going to do? Spend your weekends going to the Ballet or the Opera? Or perhaps go shopping every night? Or even worse….watch the WNBA???
No, sir.
Faking common interests is going to bring you nothing but trouble. Be your own man. Have your own interests. Don’t just say you like doing whatever she likes doing. Women can smell an Approval Seeker a mile away…
Don’t be that guy.

Compliments are good. But be creative. If all you do is sit there and compliment a woman….well….then you’re basically wrapped around her finger. She’ll get bored quick with all your compliments. You know why? Because if she’s a beautiful girl….chances are she hears the same compliments every single day.
Don’t get me wrong. Women always love a good compliment…
The key word there, however, is “good”.
If you’re out on a valentine’s date tonight, don’t be lame and tell her she has pretty eyes…
If there is nothing else about her to compliment, then you got bigger problems than I can solve for ya, buddy.
Be creative. My suggestion is don’t compliment her beauty or appearance on the first date. If you feel the need to compliment her appearance…then say something to the effect of “You look nice tonight…i like what your wearing…i love a girl w/ style..”
Good Advice:
Compliment things other than her appearance.
For example, if she makes you laugh…tell her you love her humor.
If she’s into sports…tell her you really think it’s cool that she digs football…
You see where I’m heading with this?
Don’t be like every other schmuck….be different!
Happy Valentine’s Day, my brothers….

And Happy Self Loathing Day for all of you without a date or a girlfriend…
Do yourself a favor…clean yourself up…get off the couch…and go out tonight.
Why?
Because, just like you….you’re going to find that all the girls you find tonight at the bar, or martini lounge, or whereever you go…….ARE ALSO SINGLE!! Otherwise they would be with their boyfriends…right?
Today should NOT be spent self loathing…
Today is one of the best days to go out there and meet other nice, single, lonely girls that decided NOT to spend the day inside eating icecream and crying into a pillow…
Have fun, fellas.

Women love a bit of mystery.  If you tell her everything there is to know about you…what will leave her wanting a second date?
I really don’t care if you feel an instant connection to this girl. You don’t need to be telling her about all of your feelings and insecurities. This is a no-no.
Women are not interested in this. You need to give a woman some challenge…some mystery. If there is no challenge and if the woman knows everything there is to know about you on the first date….she will lose all interest. The prospect of dating you just won’t be fun for her anymore.
Keep your feelings in check. Leave her wondering a little about how exactly you feel.
Even if you think she’s the greatest thing since Aloe Enriched Toilet Paper….
Don’t say so. Women may not agree with me on this one…..but deep down they know it’s true.
If you fold like a deck of cards right away and become putty in her hands….she won’t be interested in you anymore.
What does she have to look forward to? She won’t be anticipating your next call anymore because…well….she knows you’ll call. She knows she has you wrapped around her finger…
Don’t do it, man. Stay strong.

As I touched upon last night, body language is critical.  Believe it or not, you communicate to women without even saying anything.  Body language is a form of communication that conveys value…and alpha male status.  The problem is, a lot of times..body language can’t be faked.  You need to stop being so shy in your own skin.  Believe in yourself, and believe that you’re an awesome guy.  Walk with pride, keep your head up…and hold eye contact.  Confidence is one of traits that women find most attractive.  Are you displaying confidence by walking around with your shoulders slumped, staring at the ground?  Body language is communication……….the question is…what is your body language saying about you??

Watch this video…and watch Clark Kent’s body language vs Superman’s body language…
Don’t be Clark Kent…
Walk around like Superman…..believe me, girls recognize the difference…
We’ll discuss this more tomorrow.
For now….pay close attention to the Superman Alpha Male…

A date idea that seems to be getting more and more popular amongst the younger crowd is meeting up at a bar or pub for a drink. I can’t say I recommend this date, however, I know that it’s common in college towns and other areas.
But, the point I am trying to make here is if you’re going to drink on a date….whether it be at a bar…or whether you decide to order a couple drinks during dinner…..you better make sure you control yourself.
If you start slurring, stumbling, talking about nonsense, or crying during your dinner/date….rest assured, you’ve had way too much and your date will be texting her friends asking them to come save her.
I know, I know….the booze loosens you up and makes you feel good. I get it. But you need to stay sharp tonight. Don’t drink more than two drinks (if two drinks gets you hammered…well…i think you need to visit a dating advice site for women, Nancy). You need to keep good judgement and stay on top of your game.
I hope this is a common sense tip….but I felt it necessary to discuss anyway. Believe it or not, these tips do get discussed with different women before getting posted on this site. All of whom agree that getting drunk on a first date is a huge turn off.
My advice: Stay away from alcohol entirely on the first date. But if you feel the need to drink, limit yourself….
You’re date may be hot….but you don’t want to be seeing double of her tonight…
Save it for the upcoming guys night out…

If a woman asks you about your ex and why you broke up, don’t run off at the mouth about how awful she was. Don’t start telling this girl, who you hardly know, how bad your ex sucked at cooking or that she looked like Sloth from “The Goonies” without her makeup on.
I don’t care if she is the spawn of Satan….
Now is not the time to bad mouth her. Don’t get me wrong….Women love gossip. But if you start lacing into your ex and calling her names, your date will begin to wonder what you would say about her if you guys happened to stop seeing eachother after a few dates…
Rest assured you probably won’t be getting more than the first date.
Especially if you guys have common friends.
Be truthful, but polite. Tell your new date that things just didn’t work out with your ex, but that you wish her well.

**If by chance, you don’t have an Ex girlfriend…
Just tell her that you’ve been really busy with other things (school, sports, work..etc.) and that you haven’t really found somebody that interests you enough. You don’t want your new date thinking that you can’t get a girlfriend…
Act as if you’re selective….and you just haven’t found the right one yet…but you’re open to a girlfriend if the right girl comes along.
She’ll respect that answer.

I’ve been on vacation for a few days…so I apologize for the lack of content..

But rest assured, this week will be jampacked with new tips for ya!

« Older Entries

Newer Entries »